Money Shame

The Silent Killer

Tammy Lally tells her story on Tedx Orlando – Money Shame The Silent Killer.

Whether you’re earning $10,000 or $10 million. Why, because we surrender all our power to money.

Not sure if you’re suffering from Money Shame. Do any of these resonate with you?

  • Driving a Mercedes when you can only afford a Honda
  • Playing the big shot, always picking up the check or financially rescuing family and friends
  • Under pressure of not measuring up, and living paycheck to paycheck
  • Looking good at all costs
  • Obsessed with money: how much things cost and how much everyone earns
  • Unable to enjoy wealth or hides it from others
  • Can’t hold on to money, it continuously slips right through your fingers
  • Buried in debt, but yet keep spending
  • Bankruptcy, foreclosure or job loss is part of your past or present circumstances
  • Living in financial secrecy, fearing what others “think” of you.

Where there’s Money Shame, a new budget alone won’t solve it.

Our relationship with money, is a product of our subconscious beliefs and thought patterns stemming from our childhood. So deeply ingrained in us, they determine how we as adults deal with money. Any negative beliefs and patterns being incorrectly diagnosed as just being lazy, crazy, stupid or just bad with money.  This is what I call Money Shame.

Money Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that you’re flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging. based on our bank account balances, our debts, our homes, our cars, and our job title.

But I know that’s not true, and I know that everyone can break free from the grips of Money Shame, because I did.

It all starts with being honest with yourself and admit you’re suffering from Money Shame.  Then identify your default form of suffering (fear, anxiety, worry, resentment, or anger) and how you choose to numb the pain (Bus-i-ness, eating, video games, books, drugs, pills, alcohol, Instagram, Facebook likes, binging on Netflix, shopping on Amazon, hooked on porn, sex or romance etc..)

Finally, realize that numbing the pain is not the solution, and that if you’re going to break free from your Money Shame, you first need to deal with the painful parts of your money story that’s keeping you trapped.

There is a solution, but it’s not a quick fix. It’s a gradual process, which will test your faith, require forgiveness and demand your surrender. But you’re not alone, when you’re ready, I’m here for you.