We ALL have money shame — whether you’re earning $10,000 or $10 million. Why? Because we surrender all our power to money.
Do any of these resonate with you?
Driving a Mercedes when you can only afford a Honda
Playing the big shot, always picking up the check or financially rescuing family and friends
Under pressure of not measuring up, and living paycheck to paycheck
Looking good at all costs
Obsessed with money: how much things cost and how much everyone earns
Unable to enjoy wealth or hides it from others
Can’t hold on to money, it continuously slips right through your fingers
Buried in debt, but yet keep spending
Bankruptcy, foreclosure or job loss is part of your past or present circumstances
Living in financial secrecy, fearing what others “think” of you.
The Problem Runs Deeper…
Our relationship with money, is a product of our subconscious beliefs and thought patterns stemming from our childhood. So deeply ingrained in us, they determine how we as adults deal with money. Any negative beliefs and patterns being incorrectly diagnosed as just being lazy, crazy, stupid or just bad with money. This is what I call Money Shame.
Money Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that you’re flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging. based on our bank account balances, our debts, our homes, our cars, and our job title.
But I know that’s not true, and I know that everyone can break free from the grips of Money Shame, because I did.
This is how I did it…
It all starts with being honest with yourself and admit you’re suffering from Money Shame. Then identify your default form of suffering (fear, anxiety, worry, resentment, or anger) and how you choose to numb the pain (Bus-i-ness, eating, video games, books, drugs, pills, alcohol, Instagram, Facebook likes, binging on Netflix, shopping on Amazon, hooked on porn, sex or romance etc..)
Finally, realize that numbing the pain is not the solution, and that if you’re going to break free from your Money Shame, you first need to deal with the painful parts of your money story that’s keeping you trapped.
There is a solution, but it’s not a quick fix. It’s a gradual process, which will test your faith, require forgiveness and demand your surrender. But you’re not alone, when you’re ready, I’m here for you.